Inspires
God needs you. He needs your gifts, your smile, your love, your passion. You are a part of His divine plan. You have something to offer nobody else can offer. Nobody has your exact personality, your exact looks. There is something unique about you. Don’t wear that “average” label. If you think you’re average, then you’ll be average. If you think you’re ordinary, then you’ll live an ordinary, “get by life” and never do anything great.
The truth is, there is nothing ordinary about you. You have the fingerprints of God all over you. The Creator of the universe breathed His life into you. He crowned you with His favor. You have royal blood flowing through your veins. You have a destiny to fulfill, something greater than you’ve ever even imagined. Embrace His truth, embrace His love, and embrace the blessings He has in store for your future!
Let Go of the Wrong Relationships
“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’ ”
(1 Corinthians 15:33, NIV)
Do you ever get around a certain person and feel an uneasiness or an unrest? Something inside says, “Stay away. That’s trouble.” Those are not just bad vibes. That’s the Holy Spirit warning you. It may be small, but it can keep you from a big heartache. You might say, “Well, if I don’t hang out with them, I may not have any friends.” No, God will give you new friends. He will give you better friends. The key is: if you don’t let go of the wrong people, the right people won’t show up. This is not talking about a relationship already committed in marriage, but relationships outside of marriage. God doesn’t force us to let go of wrong relationships. He has given us our own free will. But when God asks you to give something up, He is never trying to take something away. He is trying to get something better to you. As we obey Him, we grow and mature which opens the door for more of His blessings and favor.
Remember, bad company corrupts good character. Let go of friends or influences that you know are dragging you down. Trust God to bring the right people and connections across your path. Let go of wrong relationships and move forward in the blessing He has prepared for you!
Little Things Mean a Lot
“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much…”
(Luke 16:10,
In scripture, the prophet Elisha told a man named Naaman to go wash in the Jordan River and he would be cured of his leprosy. Naaman was the Captain of an army, a very influential man. He didn’t want to go wash in the dirty Jordan River. His attitude was, “That’s absurd. That’s little. That’s insignificant. That’s not going to make any difference.” His assistant said, “Naaman, if he would have asked you to do something hard, something big, you would do it. Why don’t you do this small thing?” Naaman finally went and washed in the Jordan, and he was totally healed.
I wonder how many of us would see our breakthrough, our healing, our promotion, or a dream come to pass if we would just do the small thing that God is asking us to do. People think, “Oh, it doesn’t really matter. I’ll do it one day.” But realize today, those little things mean a lot. They are keeping you from the fullness of your destiny. It may be something small, but your act of obedience will cause God to release the big thing that He has in store.
The Blessing Follows Obedience
“If you fully obey the LORD your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the LORD your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. All these blessings will come on you and accompany you if you obey the LORD your God.”
(Deuteronomy 28:1–2, NIV)
God rewards the people who seek after Him. Every time you obey His Word, His blessing will follow. If you’ll learn to obey Him in the small things, if you learn to pass the small tests, there’s no limit to how high God will take you. The scripture says, “When we fully obey God, blessings will chase us down and overtake us.” You can’t outrun the good things of God.
Always remember, when you obey God in the small, He will release big blessings. He has big opportunities, new levels of favor, healing, restoration, vindication, promotion, planned in your future. As you stay faithful to Him, you’re going to step into the fullness of your destiny and be all that God has created you to be!
God’s Protection
“ ‘Because he loves me,’ says the LORD, ‘I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.’ ”
(Psalm 91:14, NIV)
One time, I was outside my house standing under a big oak tree talking with some people. There had been a severe drought in Houston, and the trees were very stressed. After we got through talking, we walked away. About ten seconds later, this big branch fell right where we were standing. If we had still been there, we would all be in the hospital. We walked away at just the right time. It wasn’t a lucky break; it was the goodness of God directing our steps.
Today, I encourage you to be on the lookout for God’s goodness. Acknowledge His name; acknowledge His love. Listen to the still, small voice and let Him direct your steps. He will lead you, guide you and protect you all the days of your life!
Get Ready for the New
“And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the new wine will burst the skins; the wine will run out and the wineskins will be ruined.”
(Luke 5:37, NIV)
Are you ready for a new chapter in your life? Sometimes, in order to move forward into the blessing God has for you, you have to be willing to let go of the old. The things that are behind you are not nearly as important as what is out in front of you. It’s time to get ready for the new!
You may have had some unfair things happen, things that you don’t understand; but let me tell you, you have come too far to stop now. Instead of allowing those things to hold you back, why don’t you let go and take a step of faith into the new? It’s time to get a new, bigger vision; it’s time to get a new, fresher outlook; it’s time to rise up with a new attitude! Instead of settling where you are, pick up and move forward. Have the attitude that says, “I may not understand it; it may not have been fair, but I am not getting stuck on this page. I know God has a new chapter for me — a chapter filled with blessings, favor and victory!”
Harvest is Coming
“I will give you rain in due season, and the land shall yield her increase and the trees of the field yield their fruit.”
(Leviticus 26:4, AMP)
God has set up seasons in our lives. It’s easy to get frustrated when our dreams aren’t coming to pass on our timetable, but every season is not harvest season. There are plowing seasons. There are planting seasons. There are watering seasons. Sure, we would love for every season to be a time of increase left and right, good breaks here and there. But without the other seasons, we wouldn’t be prepared. For example, it’s during the plowing seasons that God brings issues to light that we need to deal with. He’s getting us prepared for promotion.
If you’re not making as much progress as you would like, the key is to not lose any ground. Don’t go backwards. Hold your position. Keep a good attitude and do the right thing even when it’s hard. When you do that, you are passing the test, and God promises that your due season of harvest is coming. Be encouraged because your appointed time of increase, favor and promotion is on its way, and He will fulfill every dream and desire He’s placed within your heart. Remember, harvest is coming!
He Makes
Everything New
“He who was seated on the throne said, ‘I am making everything new!’…”
(Revelation 21:5, NIV)
Can you remember the time when you first discovered a big dream in your heart? Maybe you were determined to excel in your career, excel as a parent, or even excel in your walk with the Lord. You probably started out strong, but maybe things got a little difficult and didn’t happen as quickly as you would have liked. At that point many people decide, “Let’s just settle here. It’s not exactly what we wanted, but at least, it’s good enough.”
Friend, I want to remind you today that you were made for more than good enough! Maybe things haven’t worked out the way you planned, but now is not the time to stop and settle. Now is the time to dig your heals in and begin again. And even if that dream has died — it’s time to dream another dream. God has so much for you in your future.
If you’ve settled in any area of your life, take that first step by lifting your eyes to the Father. Let Him renew your strength. Let Him make things new in your life. Trust that His Word is directing your steps. Thank Him and worship Him because He is making all things new in your life!
In All Things
TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
(Proverbs 3:6, NKJV)
God wants to help you in life. Not just in the big things, but in every detail. He wants to help you when you’re cooking dinner or driving in traffic. He wants to help you with your schoolwork, help you be more productive at the office, even help you find what you’re looking for when you’re at the store.
The key is that God will only be involved as much as you allow Him to be. Don’t just invite Him into your day on Sunday. Don’t just ask Him about the big things. Learn to hear His voice in the little things. He is big enough to handle every single detail.
Scripture says, “Acknowledge God in all of your ways.” Not some of your ways. Not just the big things — in all things. If you’ll start acknowledging God in all of your ways, He will crown your efforts with success.
Ask Him for Help
TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“So Judah gathered together to ask help from the LORD…”
(2 Chronicles 20:4, NKJV)
Scripture says that we are to acknowledge God in all of our ways. One way to acknowledge God is to simply ask for His help. On the way to the grocery store, under your breath, “God, help me to find what I’m looking for. Help this to be a productive trip.” That’s acknowledging God. You’re saying in effect, “God, I need You right now. I want You in my life.”
That simple acknowledgement is an act of faith. It opens the door for Him to direct your steps, even in the little things. God will help you find what you may not have found. He will put you at the right place at the right time. And sure, you can do this without God’s help. You can do it in your own strength. But when you learn to hear His voice in the little things, you’ll be confident to hear Him in the big things. When you acknowledge God, He breathes His favor on you. You’ll come into an anointing of ease. What should have been a struggle won’t be a struggle. That’s God crowning your efforts with success.
Today and every day, ask Him for help and let Him lead you and guide you in every area of your life!
Stayed on Him
“You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You.”
(Isaiah 26:3, NKJV)
If you’ll acknowledge God in all you do, He promises to go before you and make the crooked places straight. That means He will cause the right people to show up. He will open doors that you could not open. He will crown your efforts with success.
Acknowledging God isn’t something we should just do every once in a while. He should always be on your mind. Think about two people when they are first dating. They are so enthralled with one another that no matter what they are doing, they are thinking about the other person. Well, that’s how we should be with God. First thing in the morning when you wake up, you should acknowledge Him, while you’re getting ready, while you’re driving, and all throughout the day. Don’t let the distractions of this temporary world take your focus. Be determined to make your relationship with the Father your highest priority. Keep your mind stayed on Him, and He will direct your steps!
Getting Quiet
TODAY’S SCRIPTURE
“Be still, and know that I am God…”
(Psalm 46:10, NKJV)
So many people today find themselves caught up in the day-to-day busyness of life, driven to do more in less time. It seems people constantly strive to find ways to cram more into their already overcrowded schedules. But at the same time, God is constantly inviting us to step away from the hectic pace of life and come to Him to find rest for our souls. He invites us to be still before Him, to get quiet so we can hear His voice and set our hearts and minds at peace.
Every day, you should take time to read the scripture and meditate on God’s promises. Every time you’re in the car, put on some good praise music. Make it a point to spend time with God throughout the day. When you get quiet, say, “God, I love You, today. Lord, thank You for my life, my family, my dreams.” That’s what is going to keep you strong. That’s what’s going to keep you moving forward in the right direction.
Today, make it a point to be still before God. Quiet your mind of all the things on your agenda and just focus on Him. Let Him love you, let Him speak to your heart, and let Him fill you with peace and strength each and every day.
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10 Ways to Survive (and Thrive) in a Difficult Marriage
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First, it’s important that we understand that the concepts of “difficult marriage” and “good marriage” can be compatible. Fact is, the best relationships involve challenge because challenge is typically a prerequisite for experiencing the best.
If your marriage does not involve challenge (and even conflict) then you are, in all likelihood, barely scraping the surface of what is possible in terms of a life-charged relationship.
Here at All Pro Dad we understand that life is always a work in progress. And so are the best marriages. Use these “10 Ways to Survive (and Thrive) in a Difficult Marriage” as you work out your commitment to create the best relationships possible.
Think, “Leading from the front with the heart of a servant,” and take it from there:
Understand that the word “commitment” is the most important element in the meaning of love:
Great relationships are predicated on long-term faithfulness. Time is not just a great healer; time also provides the space we need to work things out.
Take a look at this biology 101 definition of “life” and apply it to your marriage:
Life is that which distinguishes something vital and functional from something that is dead.
Life is a force associated with animation, or vigor.
Life is a state characterized by metabolism, growth, the ability to react, reproduction and constant adaptation via internal change.
Tweak your perception:
Real life is challenging and life without challenge is, by definition, “life-less.”
All of us enjoy a little calm. But try viewing difficulties in your marriage as opportunities to grow. Perception can be reality.
Consider the fact that there are always two alternatives to every situation:
We can either elevate the experience…or make it worse. Your response sets the trajectory and sets into motion what is possible.
Connect with a support group:
Your wife and you both need to be surrounded by deliberate encouragement and loving accountability. To find that, you need to surround your marriage with couples who are in strong relationships.
Commit to positive change – yourself:
The only person you can change in a marriage is yourself. Positive personal growth can be the catalyst for positive change in the relationship.
Hold yourself accountable:
Do you want your spouse to change? Change yourself first. When we are willing to be the change we imagine we have already opened the gate for positive change in our spouse.
Never blame:
Resist the urge to blame your wife for difficulties, even when you know you’re doing your best. The assignment of blame is always a step backwards.
Always affirm:
Don’t lie (because insincerity always falls flat). However, when we find positives and then follow them with heart-felt affirmation, we demonstrate both compassion and belief. Belief is a strong asset to a marriage.
Love with increasing eloquence:
Always aim to raise your own game. When we love our wife with creativity and energy, what we’re doing is the best kind of leadership available. It’s called leading from the front with the heart of a servant.
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Gurgleplex 4 weeks ago
Good Advice as always. Easier said than done.
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This is TERRIFIC, is a good program, my question is: this program is teaching in spanish? You have material in my language? my english is not very good.
If possible send me information, thank you and GOD BLESS YOU coach Tony and team
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Abraham Lincoln and Thoughts on a Difficult Marriage
In his book Sacred Marriage, Gold Medallion-winning author Dr. Gary Thomas writes,
“Abraham Lincoln was an unusual man of principle simply in the way he approached courtship. He agreed to marry a woman who he hadn’t seen in 3 years. When he finally saw his prospective bride, his heart sunk. ‘She did not look as my imagination had pictured her,’ he wrote. ‘I could not for my life avoid thinking of my mother. The lack of teeth and the treelike assessment of her age – nothing could have commenced at the size of infancy, and reached her present bulk in less than 35 or 40 years!’
Because Lincoln was a man of his word – although not pleased with this woman – he was determined to marry her. He got down on one knee and… she rejected him. Lincoln made an absolute fool of himself.
Mary Todd Lincoln was a woman of intense impulse and she had a tremendous temper. Lincoln suffered many indignities at the hand of his wife. From her publicly throwing coffee in his face, to chasing him with a knife, to her crazy spending binges of buying hundreds of pairs of gloves at a time, she was responsible for their own marital uncivil war.
When the Lincolns lost their son Willie – Mary’s favorite son – her hysterics were difficult to control. It was after losing his son and watching his wife fall apart, Lincoln wrote the speech that would mark him for posterity, The Gettysburg Address.
Lincoln shone brightest when his personal life was darkest. It’s important to see that not only did Lincoln’s difficult marriage not deter him from achieving greatness, one might argue that it acutely helped prepare him for greatness. Lincoln’s character was tested and refined on a daily basis so that when the true test came, he was able to stand strong.”
If you are married to a challenging woman, your impulse right now might be to run. But it’s not always the best option. Here are 10 ways to survive (and thrive) in a difficult marriage.
10 Ways to Survive (and Thrive) in a Difficult Marriage
First, it’s important that we understand that the concepts of “difficult marriage” and “good marriage” can be compatible. Fact is, the best relationships involve challenge because challenge is typically a prerequisite for experiencing the best.
If your marriage does not involve challenge (and even conflict) then you are, in all likelihood, barely scraping the surface of what is possible in terms of a life-charged relationship.
Here at All Pro Dad we understand that life is always a work in progress. And so are the best marriages. Use these “10 Ways to Survive (and Thrive) in a Difficult Marriage” as you work out your commitment to create the best relationships possible.
Think, “Leading from the front with the heart of a servant,” and take it from there:
Understand that the word “commitment” is the most important element in the meaning of love:
Great relationships are predicated on long-term faithfulness. Time is not just a great healer; time also provides the space we need to work things out.
Take a look at this biology 101 definition of “life” and apply it to your marriage:
Life is that which distinguishes something vital and functional from something that is dead.
Life is a force associated with animation, or vigor.
Life is a state characterized by metabolism, growth, the ability to react, reproduction and constant adaptation via internal change.
Tweak your perception:
Real life is challenging and life without challenge is, by definition, “life-less.”
All of us enjoy a little calm. But try viewing difficulties in your marriage as opportunities to grow. Perception can be reality.
Consider the fact that there are always two alternatives to every situation:
We can either elevate the experience…or make it worse. Your response sets the trajectory and sets into motion what is possible.
Connect with a support group:
Your wife and you both need to be surrounded by deliberate encouragement and loving accountability. To find that, you need to surround your marriage with couples who are in strong relationships.
Commit to positive change – yourself:
The only person you can change in a marriage is yourself. Positive personal growth can be the catalyst for positive change in the relationship.
Hold yourself accountable:
Do you want your spouse to change? Change yourself first. When we are willing to be the change we imagine we have already opened the gate for positive change in our spouse.
Never blame:
Resist the urge to blame your wife for difficulties, even when you know you’re doing your best. The assignment of blame is always a step backwards.
Always affirm:
Don’t lie (because insincerity always falls flat). However, when we find positives and then follow them with heart-felt affirmation, we demonstrate both compassion and belief. Belief is a strong asset to a marriage.
Love with increasing eloquence:
Always aim to raise your own game. When we love our wife with creativity and energy, what we’re doing is the best kind of leadership available. It’s called leading from the front with the heart of a servant.